Recently a friend shared a 2016 article from the papers entitled, "Price of wedding tables hits new high", talking about the rising costs of a wedding.
There was a chart in the article that said: "How much should you put in your red packet?".
This kind of thing only perpetuates the rise in hotel wedding prices.
The piece was a 2016 ST article. I suspect the prices have gone up even more since then.
Like my mom likes to say, "Give what you can afford. Why should friends and relatives finance their fancy wedding? Don't tell me if they have a wedding that is $10,000 a table, I also have to give $1,000 meh?"
If guests and couples keep playing this one-upmanship game, hotels and restaurants can continue the price gouging. It's like an arms race, for the sake of face. And for the sake of the Instagram. Don't do it for the 'Gram.
It is an important Big Day, that is true. But it is only the first day of the rest of your lives together. You will face many more challenges ahead, especially financially, and you shouldn't start your union with a big fat wedding bill.
You know what is more important than the wedding? The marriage.
Save the dinner money. Go on a nice honeymoon. Start your marriage properly, without the crippling debt.
Photo above is the from our wedding more than 20 years ago. My bride looked so pretty in that 裙褂 (or Kwàhn Kwáa, in Cantonese). My wife looks better and better every day.
Best Comments on this topic:
Ryan Ong: "We’re hosting a wedding, not a hospitality industry business grant."
Mezame: "Aiyah no need to get married lah. Just update FB relationship status can liao. Free some more."
Victor Seah: "Hold your wedding at a hotel you can afford, and not MARRY TO A HOTEL."
Alyssa Chee: "Elope!"
Stef: "I've told my son I will give him S$10,000 to elope."