My Guide’s Edition Paragon in Ursa has arrived and I transferred all my stuff from my Guide’s edition Wilderness Synik 22 to the Paragon.
It does not have the same organization as the pocket-laden Synik but it has a nice slim silhouette that belies its 20L capacity. It is taller and more right angled than a Synik 22 but slimmer in depth.
Internally, it’s basically one big space. So I found it handy to use a Freudian Slip meant for a Synapse 19 inside to give me more flexibility in storing my knick knacks. Because there is only one mini pocket on top inside and a larger pocket outside.
My EDC consists of many things I use for work.
So there is usually an Montbell trekking umbrella, a tabletop tripod, a few microphones like the Shure MV88+, MV88, two Sennheiser MKE2 lavaliers, Rode Wireless GO II wireless mic set (inside the Handy Little Thing), Sony field recorder (inside the Freudian slip), a small camera (in this case, the Fujifilm X70), USB-C and Lightning charging cables and a powerbank (inside the tethered Ghost Whales).
Also in there are my Moment filters for my iPhone, a toothbrush kit from Muji, contact lenses inside the tiny Ghost Whale, and secondary wallet.
I also tested my MacBook Pro 16-inch inside the sleeve behind. Fits great. I could never fit that in my Synapse 19 or Synik 22. So it’s nice to be able to schlep it with the Paragon.
It is definitely lighter than the Synik 22. The S22 is 1,100-1,200g. This Paragon is about 672g and even with the Freudian Slip, it weighs about 870g. Still lighter than the Synik 22. You do have about 2 litres less space though.
I like the flexibility of the big space inside the main compartment. I even manage to put an entire hoodie inside after I packed what you see here.
Think of this as a beefier Daylight Backpack. If you love the DLBP, you will love this too, especially if you want a laptop compartment and comfier straps.
I added the little red zipper pulls as accents to the already nice Ursa/Coyote colourway. I think the look works well.
Warning: Nerdy bag post ahead.
I was meaning to post a review in October but work and other concerns got in the way. So here it is: the Tom Bihn Shadow Guide 33 in Ursa colour.
In case you wanted to know what the colour Ursa (and the Shadow Guide 33) looks like.
I believe the smaller Shadow Guide 23 is now on pre-order, and the SG33 is in stock in both Black 525 and Ursa.
Personally I think the Shadow Guide 33 is a lovely backpack. Very useful if you need a big space to carry stuff. There isn’t as much by way of pockets and organization, compared to say, the Synik 30, but there is a useful laptop sleeve inside.
I like the SG33 because my main laptop is a 16-inch MBP. Which fits. In fact, the Shadow Guide 33 supports more laptop sizes than even my Synik 30.
The baby brother Shadow Guide 23 is more for smaller laptops like the 13-inch MBP or MBA.
The Edgeless Shoulder Straps are comfy, the back support is firm and the overall look is very modern. I can totally see this used as a travel bag, either One-Bagging it or with an accompanying side bag like a DLBC or Co-Pilot.
The aesthetic is more modern than previous Tom Bihn bags, which may please some fans looking for a more urban look. I think the Design Lab experiments are very welcome.
Ursa as a colour surprised me. I didn’t expect it to look as nice as it does in real life. I like it so much, I ordered a new Paragon Guide’s Edition in Ursa. Like Wilderness Green, Ursa has become one of my favourite new colours from the TB range.
You can see the Wilderness colourway in this photo showcasing the Wilderness Synik 22, the Ursa Shadow Guide 33 and the Mars Red Icon tote.
Now all I need is to be able to travel again and really use these bags thoroughly.
In my previous post, I wrote about how my friends Michael and Irene came to become foster parents. At the time of writing, they had four foster children, one in Primary 2, two taking the PSLE, and one in Secondary Two.
When I stepped into Michael and Irene’s home, it looked both familiar and new.
Familiar because the wife and I came here fairly often before they were married, and Irene always kept a clean and neat home.
New because gone was the large furniture and the display cabinets of her Precious Moments toys, replaced by a box of neatly placed children’s school bags, and a smaller sofa.
Michael and Irene did not just make room in their hearts for the children they foster, they made room for these children in their home.
You can see that they have their Work From Home laptops in the living room but that was something they can put away at a moment’s notice. In my home, when I set up our Circuit Breaker WFH and HBL spaces, I had to throw away a ton of junk, and we still aren’t anywhere as neat as this household of four girls and their foster parents.
In the girls’ bedrooms, there is the usual assortment of toys, games, assessment books and clothes. Everything in its place. Later, I was told by a proud Irene that this is maintained by the girls themselves.
There was a sense of order, of structure, and peace.
And when you listen to the stories from the couple about the difficult circumstances the children came from, you understand why this structure is so important. It represents a sanctuary of stability for their challenging pasts, a place for them to grow into responsible adults, and for them to feel loved and cherished.
I felt it when I entered the home. It was obvious the children adored Michael and Irene, and the couple loved them back just as dearly.
I felt it when I took their photos: one family portrait, one couple photo, and one of the foster siblings together. I gave them the photos as keepsakes.
You cannot make up the affection and love that they showed one another.
It did not always run smoothly, Michael and Irene told me. There were many challenges.
Remember, these aren’t children who grew up in their care. They came from other situations, where they may have been abused, neglected or abandoned.
Each child comes with his or her baggage, and I am not talking about the bags that carry their clothes and belongings.
Yet, with patience and understanding, the couple managed to break down the walls that got in the way of their relationship with each child.
“Do you get to adopt the children you foster?” I asked.
Sometimes it happens but rarely, Michael told me. That is the not the goal of fostering, he said. Foster care does not necessarily lead to adoption nor is that its purpose.
The purpose of foster care is reintegrating the children back to their natural families, to take care of the children until their own natural family is ready and able to take them back again. To give their natural families time, as It were, to find their footing, and become capable of raising their child again.
Adoption is a permanent thing, where the adopted child assumes the rights of the natural child in the family. In contrast, foster care is a temporary arrangement to care for the child’s immediate needs in times of emergency, and provide them a safe, stable and loving home.
And the couple told me that each child in their care looks forward to going home to their own families, if possible. Reintegration does not happen overnight, but it is a gradual process which begins the moment the child enters the foster home. It is the hope of many who are in the foster care system.
I mulled over this for days after I finished my chat with them. How does one take on children who are not your own, with no expectation that they will be yours, and just love and care for them on behalf of another family, with the end goal of giving them back?
Surely this takes an immense amount of love and magnanimity on the part of the foster parents. It baffles my mind, and my heart.
And yet, here we are. Couples like Michael and Irene exist, willing to step forward and help. Some foster parents have no children of their own, and some do. All love and care for the foster children they take on.
Interestingly, Michael and Irene consulted each child before they fostered the next, even though they have the space and capacity to just proceed to take in another child after their first.
“Do you want a Big Sister?” they asked the first one before deciding on the second girl.
“Yes, I do,” said the first. And so Cheh Cheh came into the home. Then another Cheh Cheh, And another.
“Each child is a part of our home, and we wanted their buy-in before we brought home another foster sibling. We try to prepare the kids for whatever decisions that may impact their time with us.”
This is not part of any protocol, but to the couple, it seemed to be a sensible thing to do.
Another challenge they faced was the choice of school. For instance, their first and youngest child was about to enter primary school. “We did not know how to go about this school thing.”
As parents of our own children, we had about six years to prepare for their eventual entry into school. For Michael and Irene, they had about a year and a half to figure it out. With the help of the foster care officer and a kind principal, the youngest, who was transferring due to her own school closing, was able to enter the school near their home as the foster sibling of one of the older ones.
Another challenge was the first time they went to Family Court, ready to take over the care of the foster child.
“No child should ever have to be in Family Court,” said Michael, his face wincing at the memory.
Imagine a child of four, not understanding that she is not going home after court, and two families in court together.
It can be a messy and emotional rollercoaster for both families.
And yet, all this is done to ensure the child’s welfare is taken care of. The child’s wellbeing is paramount, and painful as all this sounds, it is done in the best interest of the child.
“What kind of help would you like to see, to support you as foster parents?” I asked them.
“More volunteers,” they replied.
Besides Foster Parents, there is also a need for volunteers such as Befrienders, Mentors, Transport providers and Tutors.
Michael and Irene also had a lady volunteer who helped drive one of their foster children to school every day. Volunteers who do this are also registered with the MSF.
They say it takes a village to raise a child. This is even more true in the case of foster care.
Michael and Irene strive to provide all the necessary comforts of family life for their foster children, to give them a safe and nurturing space they may not have experienced in their natural families for whatever reason. And above all, a place where they can feel loved and cherished.
I hear it in the laughter from the girls’ rooms. I see it in their interactions. I sense it in the neat rows of clothes hanging in the cupboards, and the library books and text books stacked neatly on their desks.
Order from instability. Hope from the ashes of despair. Love that comes from a positive family life.
This is what Michael and Irene, and many foster parents like them, give to vulnerable children in Singapore. Let’s hope there are more people like them out there, willing to stand in the gap.
If you are interested to find out more about the MSF Fostering Scheme, you can join their upcoming sharing sessions. More details can be found at https://mrbrwn.co/msffostering2. Alternatively, you can call 6354 8799, WhatsApp 9645 8231 or email [email protected]
During Circuit Breaker, my kids suddenly saw more of me. We were all under the same roof, for months. Eating, studying, working, playing, arguing, nagging, sulking, and laughing.
It was life-changing, to say the least. We saw more of each other that we ever planned to. That is when you see both the good stuff and the bad habits amplified.
Faith, our oldest, and who has autism, could not go to her Day Activity Centre. So she stayed home and we had to keep her occupied. It is not easy to keep a 19-year-old severely autistic young woman engaged, let me tell you.
Isaac and Joy, age 17 and 15, both had HBL, so we had to do some serious spring-cleaning to make room for them to attend their lessons online whilst the wife and I found our own space to work. But soon we settled into a groove.
The kids, were for most part, well-behaved. But they are at an age when they are looking for more independence and defining their own identity. So at times, I have to balance between maintaining discipline and giving some leeway. They learned very quickly too, what I expected of them, like helping with the dishes after dinner, setting the table, and generally putting their books away after they were done studying (not always done).
But I count myself blessed to have these three in my life. Every day is a learning process. Every day, I figure out what it means to be a parent. Because you learn on the job. And hopefully, my kids learn to become sensible and responsible young adults.
But what about kids who don’t have this kind of family environment? Some kids come from homes torn by abuse, neglect or abandonment. Where do they go? Who looks after them until their biological families are financially, physically, and psychologically ready to take them back and raise them?
I found out two friends of mine, Michael and Irene, had decided to become foster parents. When I last saw them at our common friends’ wedding in June 2019, they had two kids in tow. And they told us, they were on their way after that wedding to pick up another. And when I finally met them to chat with them about their foster parenting journey, they had four lovely girls in their home.
I laughed and said, “Guys, you have more kids than we do now! How did you go from no kids to fostering four?”
And that was when they told me about their touching journey to making that decision to be foster parents.
Michael and Irene spent some time in Cambodia helping out in the villages yearly, and seeing children there who needed so much love and care made them want to help those who can’t help themselves. I understood how they felt because I went on two of those medical trips with them before.
They got married in 2014 and starting exploring fostering in 2016.
“Where did you go to find out about fostering?” I asked.
Michael said that he was helping out at the church tuition service when he thought, “How do I help more kids beyond volunteering to give tuition, beyond the two hours every weekend I am here?”
One night, he came home and asked his wife what she felt about fostering. At the time, Irene candidly said, “I got very angry because we were still trying to have kids of our own and here he was suggesting fostering? Was he suggesting I was incapable of having kids?”
Michael then backed off from the topic, wise husband that he was.
One day, they were at a Bible Study and a lady shared about fostering. The lady fostered not just one kid but many kids, some even with special needs. Five minutes into it, Irene’s heart open up and she was moved to tears, thinking, “Why did I close my heart?”
When she went home that day, and told him of her new conviction, and he laughed, and jokingly said, “How come I say you didn’t listen but others say, you listen?”
With his wife in agreement with his desire to be foster parents, Michael went to a foster care road show at Nex mall, organised by Ministry of Social and Family Development (MSF).
That was when they encountered the first hurdle. For potential foster parents wanting to care for children below 13 years of age, they must ensure that their windows have grills. Obviously, it was for the safety of the children they foster but it did not occur to them at the time, that it would be that big a deal.
It can be the small things that trip you up, and for the Michael and Irene, the grills was a source of angst. Their windows didn’t have grills, for aesthetic and view reasons. It may be a small thing to others but not having window grills can be important to some.
But just like those of us who become parents with our own kids, sacrifices and adjustments have to be made. I had to give up my study room so that my kids would have an extra room to sleep in, and also stopped buying my toys when I realised the kids needed space for their books and toys. And Michael and Irene had to change the way their home was configured to welcome foster kids into their lives and provide them with a safe place to stay.
They submitted their forms after a few months of mulling over the big decision, and then the assessment process began. The MSF-appointed assessors interviewed the couple and assessed their suitability to be foster parents. Everyone who lives in the household will be interviewed. If you have elderly parents living with you, they have to ensure that this does not compromise the care you are giving to foster children. In Michael and Irene’s case, it was just the two of them in their home.
The couple also had to go for a medical checkup and chest X-ray screening. I have to hand it to the MSF, they are certainly thorough.
Part of the interview process was also to find out the parenting style of the potential foster parents and how their own parents parented and disciplined them.
“How did you feel when you were caned by your parents?” was apparently one of the questions.
Michael said, “When they asked that, I was like, how would I remember something like that from 30 years ago?”
But some of us do remember. And it can inform and define the kind of parent we become. So it was quite an important question to ask.
One thing I learned was that foster parents cannot use physical punishment on foster children under their care. It is a sacrosanct rule. Some of these children come from homes with child abuse issues, and using physical punishment might remind them of their past, causing them to feel hurt or threatened. So the foster homes must be sensitive to this. Physical or any other forms of punishment are not allowed.
Once Michael and Irene were approved to be foster parents, they went for trainings held by Social Service Institute (SSI) where they learnt about topics such as helping children with trauma and attachment issue or with emotional and behavioural needs.
Michael said the lessons were enlightening and very useful.
Their first mentor and instructor for their course, who was also a seasoned foster parent herself, also helped them tremendously. After the sessions, she told them, “I think you two are ready.”
Michael laughed and told me, “I told her you sure or not?” This was because the course really gave a realistic picture of fostering and Michael felt a little apprehensive. But there was no turning back, the couple was determined to forge ahead.
You can put down what age and gender you prefer in the application form, they told me. And what criteria you may have. But it is important to have some give and take. If you have overly stringent criteria, it would be hard to find kids to place with you. But it was also important that the foster parents (and the biological parents) were comfortable with the arrangements.
For example, Michael and Irene told the MSF that they had no helper and needed to attend church. So the foster children would need to come along with them when they went. The biological parents of the foster children in their care were fine with it, so that was that.
Sometimes, schools or childcare arrangements may need to change too, depending on the circumstances of the foster child.
When the foster children are placed with a couple, there may be an estimated timeframe but sometimes, due to circumstances, the timeframe can extend. Michael and Irene said they were mentally and emotionally prepared for that scenario. One year can become two, perhaps because the foster child’s family circumstances did not improve.
Fostering ends at 18 but in some cases, foster parents continue to look after the child until he turns 21 with support from MSF.
Yes, there is a monthly fostering allowance provided by the State to help defray the cost of caring for the foster children such as food, clothing, transport, school fees and other needs. Medical Fee Exemption Card (MFEC) is also provided and this will fully cover the Foster's child medical expenses at polyclinics and government hospital. There will also be subsidies for infant care, childcare and student care.
But don’t ask foster parents how much money they are “making” from this. Nobody does this for money. Love is the only currency they give and receive. You really have to have the heart to take fostering on. It is a huge responsibility to take care of someone else’s child and provide a stable and loving environment for the vulnerable.
In my next post, I shall share some of the challenges Michael and Irene faced along the way.
If you are interested to find out more about the MSF Fostering Scheme, you can join their upcoming sharing sessions. More details can be found at https://mrbrwn.co/msffostering1. Alternatively, you can call 6354 8799, WhatsApp 9645 8231 or email [email protected]
Men shopping for clothes: “This pair of pants fits me well.”
Proceeds to buy it in light blue, dark blue and black.
I could not wait any longer. The pants I owned started getting too big, and even the belts I had were now the wrong size. So I finally bit the bullet and went to get new pants. I had dropped about 10kg, and 3-4 inches at the waist, since Circuit Breaker and WFH started. In the process, I also took out all the old too-big jeans and gave them away. In case anyone wants to know, this wasn't Robinsons (crazy ah, go and fight with the crowd for last-minute deals at the end of a 162-year-old shopping insitution).
I was at Muji Plaza Singapura. I tell you, it is quite exciting to be able to finally fit into pants that Muji sells. The store is notoriously Japanese in their sizing. There is usually nothing more than size 34 for their pants and if you are lucky, you MAY find a stray size 35 on their shelves. But I like the Asian cut of their clothes (even the length is right)… as long as you can lose enough weight to fit into their sizes.
I am still about five kilograms away from my target weight but I am quite happy to be lighter. Needing to get new smaller clothes is actually a nice problem to have.
Next thing to tackle, the shirts and tees that are now too big too, haha!
Our family is honoured to be part of the expanded edition of Bob Lee’s photography project, Memory Blocks.
Bob came to take our family portrait in our living room recently, and we love the way the photos turned out.
We were very happy that Faith was well-behaved during the session because it is not that easy to keep an autistic 19-year-old young lady still for very long. She looked like she enjoyed the photo session and even managed a smile. Though she did run away at least once during the shoot.
Side note: I love how he asked me to turn on my work lights for the photo. Yes, I have two huge lights in the living room for video work, on wheeled light stands.
Memory Blocks captures portraits of families staying in HDB flats. The portraits are made in the living room, a “potent site for familial interaction”.
This expanded edition of photographs captures how the pandemic has changed the way we live.
The project is part of the 7th Singapore International Photography Festival (7th SIPF 2020).
Something I wrote for Father's Day, for my church publication, the Trinitarian magazine:
“When your children see you 24/7 at home, they see their father in every situation. When he is working. When he relaxing. When he is praying (or not praying enough). When he is angry. When he is goofy. When he is loving with their mother. When he is arguing with her too.
Everything. Laid. Bare.
In these times, you start to ask yourself, how do you be the father you need to be to your children?”
Public holiday WFH mode. 2020 12.9 iPad Pro with the Magic Keyboard. Loving how the scissor keys and trackpad feel, and the Magic way it makes my iPad Pro float.
Some thoughts after using it for a while: If you plan to do a lot of typing on the iPad Pro, this keyboard is game-changing. It is a major step towards making the iPad Pro into the laptop replacement, that began with the implementation of iPadOS.
It is light years nicer than the Smart Keyboard Folio in terms of feel. The scissor keys are as good as a new MacBook Pro’s. Trackpad works very well too, though a little smaller than than traditional MacBook Pro one. The way Apple has made the "cursor" work on the iPad is brilliant, like a little finger instead of an arrow. And after a while, you will be "mousing" around as if you are using a laptop. There is a magnetic effect too, so your trackpad dot will snap to the app icons when it is near.
You need to learn the shortcuts to fully realize the potential, like three fingers swiping up to open the app launcher, or three fingers swiping left and right to switch between apps, or "the pinch" to zoom in and out. But once you master the trackpad shortcuts, and the keyboard ones, you may not need to lift a finger to touch the screen much anymore.
My only gripes: the weight (it is a little heavy), and the angle (I wish it tilted juuuuust a little more backwards haha!).
The 12.9 iPad Pro with the Magic Keyboard weighs about 1,340 grams while the 2020 Macbook Air weighs about 1,268 grams. Yes, I weighed them both on the scales I use to weigh my coffee beans.
So the Magic Keyboard combo is slightly heavier. But then you can't use an Apple Pencil on the MacBook Air or any MacBook for that matter. For people who are iPad-focused, this small weight difference will not be an issue.
You can use a previous Gen iPad Pro with this Magic Keybaord too (I tested it on an 2018 iPad Pro) and it works fine. So no worries there. You don't need to buy the new iPad Pro just to use this Magic Keyboard. Though the LIDAR and the extra camera is nice to have.
I understand why the tilt angle can't go back further, as the iPad Pro is fairly heavy by itself. For now, the angle is usable.
Charging via the additional USB-C port on the Magic Keyboard works well, and frees up your main USB-C port for other accessories and peripherals. If you use an 18W Apple charger, you won't see much difference in charging speeds. If you use something with more juice, like a 30W charger, then the main USB-C port is faster, but not by a lot. The Magic Keyboard USB-C port tops out at 22W of juice, while the main USB-C port can do up to 26W. So, charge with the main USB-C port with a big fat charger if you want the maximum charging speeds.
Note that you cannot use the USB-C port of the Magic Keyboard for anything other than charging. It does not support data transfers or accessories.
You can't flip the keyboard around to use the screen only, unlike the Smart Keyboard Folio. I suppose if you want to use the iPad as a tablet, you are supposed to take the entire thing off the Magic Keyboard. I am ok with that too.
The floating is amazing. And the Magic Keyboard is nice and rigid. It is a pricey accessory, for sure. But there is nothing like this out there for the iPad Pro for now, and it works great. iPad Pro users, rejoice!
Note to self: Perusing Instagram in landscape mode is bad for one’s neck.
It is now day 31 since Circuit Breaker started on the 7th of April 2020. The family has settled into a rhythm of WFH, HBL, attending church service at home, binge-watching anime and tv shows, and working on our hobbies.
Mommy has her miniatures to work on, Isaac has his Call of Duty and his music, Joy has her art, her cosplay and music, Faith has her Wiggles and music on her iPad, Auntie chats with her family back home over video calls, and me, I have my, er, sleep.
One of the challenges has been to carve out space for everyone to do their thing, be it work or study, hobby or leisure. We managed to do this by clearing out a lot of unneeded rubbish and furniture, just before Circuit Breaker started. I also had to make room for my work, which involved lugging home a ton of audio and video equipment.
Music is one of the things we all agree upon. And because each of us have our own tastes in music, the Sonos system we had was invaluable. I also found a little time to unpack the Sonos Amp and Klipsch RP-500 speakers and added them to my network. The Amp drives passive speakers at 125 Watts per channel, and also lets me connect the TV via its HDMI ARC input, if I wanted to use them for tv sound.
The way I use them is just for music. So in the living room, the Sonos Amp is my music player.
I had a pair of Play:5 version 2 speakers (there is a version 3 out already) in the living room for music previously. So since the Amp took that role, Isaac received a Sonos Play:5 speaker in HIS room (which he was thrilled to get), and Faith got the other Play:5 in HER room (which meant she no longer needed to sit in the living room to listen to her favourite songs).
Joy got a little red HAY Sonos One Limited Edition I was using somewhere else in the house, placed next to her bed, and an older Sonos Play:1 went into the kitchen for Auntie to listen to while she cooks up a storm daily. The Playbar surround system in my master bedroom is still there, providing music and movie surround for the wife and me to enjoy. It is even more important as a personal cinema system now that we can't go out for movies.
As you can see, everyone has their own speaker space. I think it helps us all keep a little sane in this kind-of lockdown.
I was quite excited to hear that Sonos finally updated the Playbar with the new Arc. Finally!
ARC is the successor to the venerable Playbar. It has 3D sound with Dolby Atmos and 11 Class D digital amplifiers that drive 11 custom drivers inside. Supports voice control via Google Voice or Alexa, Apple Airplay 2 (which my Playbar doesn't), and uses a magnetic sensor to detect when the Arc is mounted and smartly adjusts the EQ.
Made to support larger TVs that people now buy, 55-inches and up, the Arc is basically the Playbar on steroids. One downside though, it requires your TV to support Atmos and Atmos-encoded content in order to enjoy the Atmos experience. You can't just have an ATMOS-supported Apple TV 4K console to get it. And it will run on the new Sonos S2 platform coming in June.
The S2 platform supports almost all the Sonos products except the first-generation Sonos Play:5, Zone Players, and Connect/Connect:Amp devices manufactured between 2011 and 2015.
The Arc is S$1499 and will be here on on 10th June and available now for pre-order at trysonos.sg
You can pair it with the existing Sonos Sub or get a Sub (Gen 3) for S$1149, announced at the same time. The Play:Five (Gen 3) is also out (S$799), coming on 10th July. Though I am likely to stick with my current Play:5 (Gen 2) speakers.
Last night, we watched the new Emma movie directed by Autumn de Wilde, starring Anya Taylor-Joy as Emma. It was quite nice to watch some Jane Austen, in the comfort of home. Which is where we will be in the weeks, and maybe months, to come. Thank goodness for the company of loved ones, the roof over our heads, food on the table, and music wafting through our home.
As Emma said in the book, “Without music, life would be a blank to me."
After we sang the 10 People 1 Metre song yesterday, our friend Debbs said we were like a Lao Chek Boy Band liddat. So we came up with some names for our band:
2. Boyz II Unkers
3. What Direction
4. Old Men Under the Block
7. The MoreFats
8. 5 Minutes of Shh Shh
9. Take That, You Si Geena
10. Backwards Boys
11. 36 Degrees (because cannot have fever)
13. BIG ABANG
16. Super Senior
17. Hootie and the What the Fish
18. Deaf Leppard
19. Earth, Wind, and Tired
20. Pek Chek Boyz
29. Where's Life
30. Old Men Blur Like Block (Miyagi added this one.)
31. Gums and Noses
32. Panic! At Fire Disco
35. Hair Supply
I just had some drama this morning with my iPhone 11 Pro Max in the office.
My iPhone couldn’t charge! The Lightning cable wouldn’t go into the port!
So I checked inside. It looked odd. Like there was extra material on the left and right.
I spent a bit of time trying to figure out what it was. I thought it was a part of the phone sticking out. I tried to push it back in. Nope.
Then I guessed. What if I was a piece of a broken Lightning cable?
I took my screwdriver. Mounted my Aputure AL-MX light on a mini tripod, and got to work. One little twist and something popped out!
It was a broken piece of Lightning cable! My home cable must be broken. I guess I will need to buy a new one soon. You can see the broken tip next to a working Lightning cable below.
This is not the first time I have had stuff stuck in my Lighting port. Once, I had LINT from my pocket stuck in there, interfering with the charging.
I was quite relieved to solve the problem. Otherwise, I would need to send it in for repairs, and transfer my stuff to my backup iPhone 11 Pro.
This has to be one of the most fun projects I’ve had the privilege of working on this year. Downstairs is a new adult animated series by Robot Playground and Ervin Han (who also brought you the series Heartland Hubby, which I was also a part of).
It is really something to be working with so much comedic talent.
I play Uncle Dong, the sexiest man in the block.
Here is a quick look at Episode 2: Train To Bishan, from the series:
YouTube Link: https://youtu.be/85K5M3zmkPc
Do catch the entire series on Toggle (which will be renamed dunno simi MeWatch in 2020). Er, the 21-episode series is NC16 and Not for Kids ok? Don't say I nair warn you first.
See you Downstairs, ok? ONZ!
I have enjoyed sharing my photos and stories with you this year. Here are the 2019 Best Nine photos of my instagram feed. Here is to more stories and adventures in 2020!
1. Faith finally overcoming her fear of flying
Blog Post: https://www.mrbrown.com/blog/2019/12/faith-takes-a-plane.html
2. Family Krabi Trip in December
3. Joy’s Christmas present to us
Blog Post: https://www.mrbrown.com/blog/2019/12/the-best-kind-of-gifts.html
4. Faith in Church
5. Road trip with my wife in Spain.
Exposure Photo Essay: https://brown.exposure.co/the-browns-go-to-spain-in-spring
6. 12 of us in our Krabi family trip
7. CNY 2019
8. Meeting Tim Cook and Theresa Goh
Blog Post: https://www.mrbrown.com/blog/2019/12/meeting-tim-cook-and-paralympian-theresa-goh.html
9. Hokkaido trip with the two younger ones
FB Posts with more photos: Link 1, Link 2, Link 3, Link 4, Link 5, Link 6, Link 7.
Podcast: mrbrown travels: The Watermelon Story, Japan
Other stories that meant a lot to me in 2019:
10. Turning Fifty:
12. Going to NYC with the Wife for GoT:
13. Being interviewed in Chinese by Tung Soo Hua on Channel 8's《我.董.你》 Be My Guest (thereby increasing my street cred at the wet market forever):
Blessed Christmas from the browns!
As we gave out presents to the kids at a minute past midnight, we got a surprise gift in return: this lovely painting from our youngest one.
Behind the painting, there were messages from Isaac and Joy for Mommy and me. And even a message from Faith. (Technically Joy helped her autistic Cheh Cheh to write that message but it was still sweet.)
Joy said her test of whether the paintings looked like her subjects was to ask her big sister questions like:
“Where is Papa?” Faith points to me.
“Where is Mommy?” Points to Mommy.
I tell you, the best presents are kids who love you and know you love them. Even if they drive you crazy sometimes, during the rest of the year.
May the Love and Peace that surpasses all understanding, guard your hearts and minds this Christmas.
I am not a morning person but this morning was an exception.
You see, I was on my way down to OCBC Aquatic Centre to meet Apple’s Tim Cook and Paralympian Theresa Goh.
We had a good chat about creativity, accessibility, and parenting in a fast-changing technological world. And of course, Apple products, which I love using.
All the photos here were taken with an iPhone 11 Pro Max by me except the last one, which was of me Airdropping my selfie of us to Tim and Theresa [Photo: Reuters].
It is like magic, I said to Tim, about Airdrop. Which is what I also feel of many of Apple's products and services.
It was an honour and blessing to meet two extraordinary people in one morning.
This is us a few days ago, on our way to a Krabi family vacation with my younger brother's family. We were a party of 12 and it was like a tour group. It was a short flight but Faith has a fear of flying and major sensory issues on planes. We know it is always a challenge, but we Improvise, Adapt and Overcome. And we step out with faith, surrounded by prayer.
This short video clip will give you an idea of how difficult it is for Faith to fly.
Before this, she stopped twice — once outside the aerobridge, and once outside the plane door — refusing to board until we reassured and consoled her.
Her autism makes her particularly sensitive to the sounds, G-forces and ear pressure of takeoff and landing.
If this happened a few years ago, we would be holding her down as she had a meltdown, trying to remove her seat belt and leave her seat. Once, on another trip, she lay down on the tarmac of Kuantan Airport, just in front of the Firefly plane, and refused to budge. We took a long time to get her on her feet to board the plane.
Over time, she has learned to cope and brave the sensory overload.
This trembling behavior you see in the video is both a form of stimming (self-soothing and modulation) and also the trembling of fear. We gave her a sweet to deal with the ear pressure, and my helper and I took turns to reassure her with touch, and joint compression. When the plane finally leveled out, she calmed down for the rest of the flight. She even took the Beats noise-canceling headphones off and returned them to me. She decided she didn’t need it anymore.
When we finally made it to the hotel, Faith had a huge grin on her face as she tucked herself into bed and rested under the compression of the blanket. That is her holiday bliss face. And her father also had the same grin seeing that happiness.
Isaac and Joy are currently on a road trip with me in Japan. We discuss things on the long drives.
Someone sent me this note allegedly written by someone affected by the recent move by the authorities to ban PMDs from footpaths, a ban that was announced on 4th November 2019 and was effective the next day. It was announced by Minister Lam PMD Min.
The issue of PMDs is a polarizing one, with some calling for a ban, others calling for regulation but not ban, and yet others calling for the authorities to maintain the status quo.
I got my youngest to read the post below out loud. And then my two kids and I had a discussion about it during our long drive, covering topics like:
1. Should PMDs have been allowed in the first place without infrastructure and legislation?
2. Was the PMD issue handled with the right wisdom and speed?
3. The impact the ban has had on livelihoods.
4. The impact PMDs has had on pedestrian safety.
5. The importance of personal financial responsibility.
6. What is the Locus of Control? (People who develop an internal locus of control believe that they are responsible for their own success. Those with an external locus of control believe that external forces, like luck, determine their outcomes.)
7. Should the government help those impacted by this ban and if so, how can it help mitigate things?
8. What other options are there for food delivery employees?
9. Who should take the blame for this fiasco? The government? The errant users? The retailers who imported these devices? The companies who encouraged the use of these devices in their food delivery business?
10. The tradeoffs between working in a job that pays less but has more stability, and working in a job that pays more but has less certainty.
11. The viability, benefits, and risks of the gig economy.
12. The tradeoff between having CPF and not having it.
13. The cost of housing.
I had a good discussion with my teens on this matter. I trust there will be many views here too. Keep it respectful please. Thanks.
“I am an ITE graduate who previously work in office job, it paid me $2,200 every month, no 13th month, no bonus, 3 days MC.
Since Grabfood come along, with my trusty PMD, I earn $3,500 every month.
Now overnight, my PMD is illegal and I cannot use it for daily work.
With my $3,500 salary, I thought it was good time to start family, I can provide for my baby. Combine with my wife $2000 salary, we buy $250,000 BTO in CCK.
Now my income suddenly become zero, if I go back old job, it drop by $1,300 every month, I have baby that need diaper, need milk powder, need infant care, now my expense is more than my income.
Govt ask me to buy certified UL2272 PMD, I support and follow.
Govt ask me be careful while riding on the footpath, I careful. Never hit anyone or get into argument before in my 2 year as PMD rider.
Govt tell me to register PMD, I register.
Govt ask me to have stable proper job, I found one.
Govt ask me to have children, I agree and have kid.
I do everything you ask me to, but you still ban me from doing my job, a good job that pay me well. Now my children childcare fee how? Now their daily expense how? Overnight my salary cut by 30%, how can I be a good father to raise my children responsibly?
I want to be good citizen and help the country by being employ and by having children.
I want to help my country, but now my country don't want to help me.
Tell me what I should do now? With one speech now my income drop so much, if I am irresponsible rider, u penalty me I nothing to say. I am safe delivery rider but I pay price for those YP black sheep.
How I face my wife now, how I tell my children I cannot bring them go out enjoy some family excursion?
Sad to be a loyal Singaporean. I want to be loyal but there is no care for me.
Written by: M Siva, Grabfood PMD rider since 2018”